How Healing Your Childhood Unlocks New Possibilities

Have you ever wondered when you started to shrink yourself?
When you stopped raising your hand?
When you began living to please others instead of listening to your own voice?

I remember the exact moment it began for me.

I was at school. We were drawing names to choose the class leader.
I loved leading—I felt alive when I could guide and support others.
So I raised my hand with confidence. I wanted to be chosen.

But a few kids didn’t want me to win.
They cheated.
They doubled the votes for another student, just so I’d lose.
And then they told me what they had done.

I was devastated—not just by the betrayal, but by the silence that followed.
There was no adult to comfort me. No one to say,
"That wasn’t fair."
"Your feelings matter."
"You’re still a leader."

What really causes trauma?

It’s not always the event itself.
It’s the loneliness inside the pain.
It’s not having a safe, regulated adult to help you make sense of what happened.

That day—and many others like it—I began to disconnect.
From my joy.
From my confidence.
From the dreams I once believed were possible.

I became the good girl. The pleaser.
An adult woman who had no idea who she truly was.

But healing changes everything

As I started to meet those frozen, abandoned parts of myself…
As I began showing up for myself in the way no adult once did…
Something beautiful happened:

I came back online.
I felt energy again.
I remembered what it feels like to want something.
To create something.
To live instead of just coping.

That’s why I’m running a marathon at Mount Everest

Because I’m not surviving anymore.
I’m living.
I’m using my energy to move toward joy—not just manage pain.

And you can too.

Ask yourself:

• What dreams did you leave behind?

• What part of you is still waiting for someone to say, “You matter”?

• Are you truly thriving—or just getting through?

Healing gives you your life back.
Not the one you were told to live—but the one your soul has been whispering about all along.